#230 / Let's talk about burn out, baby.
“Those who sprint might travel quicker, but we’ll all end up in the same place at the end.”
― Fennel Hudson.
When I woke up this morning, I knew exactly what I wanted to talk about. How often, over the past few years, have I had this conversation with the women in my life? That we’re tired. That we’re frustrated. That we’re losing track of the point and the purpose. That we can’t sleep, but it’s all we want to do. That there’s a foggy sort of a brain-mist obscuring our best ideas and strongest intentions.
That conversation keeps on repeating and repeating as myself and my crew get closer and closer to burning out. It happens. It’s the pace of life, the demands on our time, the limitations of ourselves and our roles and our opportunities. It’s the technology that won’t give us a moment’s peace, it’s our deeper informational connection to the wider problems of the world that we’re no longer able to ignore and feel powerless against. It’s the way it all keeps on and keeps going, and we turn into hamsters on a wheel.
Well, let me tell you something. Burn out is real. And if you’re experiencing it, I want you to know that it’s not a sign of weakness, and it’s not something to ignore, and it’s not something that’s just going to go away. If you’re burning out, if you’re burned out, you owe it to yourself - before you owe anything to anyone else - to do something about it. Take a day. Take a weekend. Take a week off, if you can. Look at your schedule, and look at what’s overwhelming you, and try to take a breath.
Ask for help, if you need help. Let go of what can be let go. And start to take that burn out seriously, before it gets a little more out of control. The truth is - you are not under any obligation to give all you’ve got, to the point of total exhaustion and break down, no matter what the social contracts you’ve signed with your kids, spouse and job are telling you.
But you are under an obligation to take care of yourself.
All my love,
Try to slow your mornings down a little over the next few days. Maybe you don’t need to do everything on that list, in the perfect order, just to get out of the house. Maybe it’s okay if you’re a bit messier and less “together” before 9am…
We put so much emphasis on what our bodies need. The gym. Our water intake. Protein shakes. What does your heart need right now? Does it need for you to be held by someone you love? Does it need space? Does it need a damn good cry? Try and pay attention to those needs.
Book in some one on one time with someone you love. Your best friend, your partner, maybe your Mum. Be with each other, talk to each other, and enjoy the shared moment as if there were nobody else in the world to encroach on your tiny bubble. You deserve that - and so do the people you love.
For Your Spellbook Journal
Write out an anti-to do list. Just a small checklist, in your journal, of what you don’t want to do over the next few days. See what comes up. See what you can strike down…