#231 / Love is patient. Love is kind.

Tuesday Edition

“And if, in the silence, you hear a cry for help - go and answer it, lest your own are unheeded.”

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Love is patient. Love is kind.

I think we need and crave that patience and kindness. And we need to hold patience and kindness for ourselves. Because we’re flawed creatures, and we are more aware of our own flaws and failings, our shortcomings and dark secrets than any other human on this earth. We f**k up. We lash out. We huff and puff and sulk, and at the end of it we just feel as though we’ve failed all over again by showing a shred of vulnerability. We hold ourselves to standards that nobody could reach, and then punish ourselves for it.

Love is patient. Love is kind. I’m sure you’ve heard that verse. It winds up in the readings at every single wedding, it’s quoted by every couple you’ve ever followed on Instagram, and it’s impossible to escape.

Despite my laconic tone, it’s a sentiment I don’t object to at all. Love ought to be patient. Love ought to be kind. But I want to ask you this. Are you ever patient and kind with yourself? Do you express love for yourself in that way and in that language?

All my love,



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