#236 / Think about what matters

Saturday Edition

“Fairy tales are more than true: not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten.”― Neil Gaiman

person holding lighted candles in front of brown wooden wall

Priorities shift and change with so much frequency. I can remember a few short years ago, my priorities were largely focused around living life as though it were one endless party, and there was very little room for anything of value, of meaning, or of true worth. When I look back now, I think I have a much stronger handle on what really matters to me - but that hasn’t come out of nowhere. It’s come out of 2 years of careful reflection, journaling and work.

It’s easy to let your priorities be dictated to you by circumstance, or by the compounding consequences of your decisions. Prioritising on autopilot. Assigning value to the different areas of your life without truly thinking about it, even for a moment. It’s a little like letting the winds that drive your ship dictate the direction of your compass.

Thinking about your priorities and trying to be more intentional about what they are, why they are and where they’ll take you is a vital part of self care. It keeps you aligned to what you need, rather than enthralled and ensared by what you want.

All my love,



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Sort out your workspace. With so many of us working from home, it is dreadfully easy for our spaces to become a little messy, a little wild and somewhat unkempt. But that can have an impact on the work we do, and how we feel while we’re doing it. I’m not saying you need to have everything in neat stacks and piles, that doesn’t work for everyone. I’m saying you need to design a workspace for yourself where you feel safe, comfortable and creative - however that looks for you!


If your priorities include some of the people in your life - let them know. Tell them how much their friendship means to you, and tell them that you appreciate them. Those simple words can go an awfully long way to helping ourselves by saying them and articulating the truth of how we feel, and helping others by showing them that someone gives a damn.


This is not the year to avoid pastry. This is the year to embrace it.

I’ll leave that one in your capable hands, my darling.

For Your Spellbook Journal


Write about the themes you’re seeing in your life this month. We’re closing in on the last months of the year, and the themes that have emerged may be important to monitor and think through. No more than a few paragraphs though - let’s keep it simple and not overthink it!