#237 / Give and take space

Tuesday Edition

“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.”― Rupi Kaur

photo of forest trees

Giving and taking space is one of the hardest parts of any relationship, whether it’s with your friends, your family, your loved ones, your work colleagues or anyone else. There is a belief, in our culture, that taking space from someone is a bad thing, that it means that you love them less, you aren’t there for them, or they aren’t there for you. But taking space doesn’t mean you’re avoiding someone. It means you’re recharging and getting yourself into a better place.

I think true love is able to blossom when two people can step away from each other without turning it into a war. There’s nothing wrong with having a bit of margin from the people you care about; in that margin, you’re both able to grow as individuals, on a human level, to come back stronger together.

We lose sight of that - I believe - because we think about our relationships in terms of unions. Rather than seeing ourselves as two separate people who care for each other, we see ourselves as playing parts in a unit, complimenting each other through incompletion. But if you can reach for the strength of yourself and yourself alone, and understand the space that you need to inhabit to be there, I think you stand a stronger chance of a stronger relationship.

All my love,



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