#255 / Only try to control what is yours to control
“Home is where the heart wants to be.”
There is so much that we can’t control. We can’t control the weather. The traffic. The people around us and how they respond. The emotions, wants, moods and choices that shape them. We can’t truly control our own health - dependent, as it is, on genetics and pure chance.
But we do have total control and dominion over some few things. We can control our emotional responses. We can control how we react. And nobody else gets to shape that for us. There’s some beauty in that recognition; if we can put the weight of our effort, emphasis and worth on controlling only what is ours to control, we can be accountable to ourselves.
If we can desire only to control our own responses and feelings, we’ll be giving freedom to the people around us, and our desires are far more likely to be met.
All my love,
I believe in starting the day mindfully. We can be challenged by so much throughout each 24 hour period, and that challenge can take a toll. If you can think, act and be intentional as the day begins, you have the chance to lay a thoughtful foundation for what is to come. Think about the breakfast you eat. How soon you pick up your phone and dive into social media. Think about which habits and formations you want to embrace and abandon.
Try not to catastrophise. When one thing goes wrong, it’s easy to imagine the ripples of disaster that could emanate from it. But the truth is, the worst isn’t always likely. And even if it is, it won’t end the world. If we don’t focus on the fire, we might find only embers.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Nobody needs you to be an island. Nobody needs you to be completely self sufficient. You’re allowed to put your hand up and say that you need support. Why are you trying to show more strength than you need? What do you have to prove?
For Your Spellbook Journal
Your growth is not always measured in success. Sometimes, it can be measured in failure.