#256 / Grow at your own pace
“You have as much chance finding yourself in the checkout line at Woolworths as you do on a mountaintop. You just have to pay attention.”
I read a Twitter thread talking about life in your 20’s. The writer claimed that your 20’s are a crucial decade, time that can’t be wasted, where your financial and career decisions are permanent and cosmically important and ought to be taken seriously. And I disagreed with every single f**king word.
I think we place so much weight on ourselves to have it all figured out by the team we reach an age that - realistically - may only be a fraction of our lives. We’re told that we have only a brief window in which to shape who we’ll be for the next 60 years. I think that’s utter nonsense.
We are allowed to grow and to go at our own pace. There are no benchmarks that we need to reach, no milestones that measure our worth and our value. No matter what age you are, you can take a breath, reset, recenter, change course, change your mind and start again.
It’s okay. You do you. Nobody gets to judge the outcome of that except you.
And as long as you’re happy, well - f**k it. You’re doing just fine.
All my love,
Burn what must be burned. You don’t have to hold onto memories, keepsakes or good times. You are not obligated to give up space on your emotional hard drive out of a sense of responsibility to your ex, your family or who you used to be.
Try to re-examine your own ideas and preconceptions and patterns. Why do you feel like you need to respond in certain ways, to certain triggers? Why do you hold beliefs that hold you back? If you ever find that the answer is, “because that’s how it’s always been” - congratulations. You’ve found an opportunity to grow.
Remember. There is no shame in shutting the door for a moment. Shutting yourself away to recover, recuperate and find yourself again. Shutting yourself away to just catch up on some sleep. The trick, of course, is ensuring that you remember to open it again before too long. But I believe in you. I know that you’ll know, when the time is right.
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