#265 / Make space for your grief

Saturday Edition

Life is tough, darling. Life is hard. And we better laugh at everything; otherwise, we're going down the tube.

- Joan Rivers

We grieve for so many different reasons. And they all create an ache of equal validity and importance, in our own lives. Grieving for people we’ve lost, for people we can’t reach, even for people we can no longer be. Grieving for that lost relationship, even though you’re glad it’s over…

Live in it. Sit in it. Stand in it, and feel every ounce of its weight.

Not because it’s the only way to heal. Not because you deserve to be free of it. Simply because grief on its own is one of the most beautiful experiences of the life we live, day by day. It’s an acknowledgement of our capacity for love - even if that denotes a capacity for loss.

If you haven’t taken the space to grieve, I’d encourage it. Don’t do it alone, if you don’t want to. Do it surrounded by the people you love. Let it reach into your core, and remember what it means; that you are here, and you have opened your doors, and you can open them again.

All my love,




Wipe down your glasses. This is one that I always mean to do. But I put it off, even though it needles me, even though it would be so easy to do. Take a moment to clean them down and start to take care of them a little more.


Clean out your bag. Mine is full of sweet wrappers, spare cables, snacks for the 4 year old, earrings and goodness only knows what else. It’s the flotsam and jetsam of my life, but it has a way of obscuring everything important…


Keep your phone in the next room until you shower, finish breakfast and have a clear head. You may be quite surprised how much it could help your emotional state at the beginning of your day.