#269 / You can't hurt my feelings, but I like pain...
“Pick yourself up and go out into the Wilderness."
I think the greatest obstacle I’ve ever encountered, to being truly happy myself, is the idea that happiness = perfection and perfection = not having pain and anxiety and anger.
That’s such an unhealthy idea. It’s an unhealthy idea that so many people grow up with.
A change I’ve tried hard to make is accepting the things I feel that aren’t “positive.”
A change I’ve tried hard to make is accepting that just being positive and thinking positive and feeling enlightened isn’t the be all and end all.
A change I’ve tried hard to make is accepting that I have pain, and I probably have less pain than many other people, but it’s okay to have that pain and not hide it away.
But the biggest change has been accepting that I don’t have to be the master of my pain. Sometimes, it’s going to master me. Sometimes, I’ll be able to win and be on top of the world, and sometimes I won’t. And as long as I keep getting up when I can, and keep moving when I can…it’s okay.
It’s not an easy thing to accept. But it’s there. And it’s making me better.
All my love,
Delegate. You don’t have to be the person who does everything. You don’t have to be running around the house, cleaning up after everyone else. You don’t have to handle every task for your team. You don’t have to cook dinner every night. You are allowed to ask other people to complete tasks for you. It’s the only way to scale yourself.
Start a book club. Reading is a wonderful thing, but it can also be a social thing. Starting a book club isn’t hard - just get a few of your close mates together in a group chat, pick a book, and go for it. Share gifs about it. Share what you loved and hated. Ask each other questions. Make the book a reason for you to gather and share your spirit.
Make a donation. Give something away. Clothes. Money, if you can afford it. Food, if you have more than you need. There’s a certain degree of meaning that can only be found in giving things up instead of accumulating them.